In last week’s blog, Giving Praise in Business Relationships, we talked about the importance of giving praise. What do you do when you don’t feel you get enough praise? You may be surrounded by people who find it hard to offer praise. You may hold a position as a business owner or a top-level manager where praise just isn’t found as frequently, no matter how good of a job you do. Whatever the reason, many people crave the proverbial “gold star” and don’t receive it.
Ask for Feedback
Tell those closest to you that you want feedback. Feedback can come in many forms including an employee review by your supervisor, a letter of recommendation, a peer review by those you work with, or a testimonial by a customer.
Personally, I’m a bit of a gold-star junkie. The realities of business, however, is that — unlike school — gold stars are hard to come by in a professional setting. As an employee, I may not get recognition for completing a project well or on time, but I have learned to enjoy the self-satisfaction of checking off each item. And if I had help in completing the project, buying doughnuts for the team is a great way to celebrate.
Giving It Means Getting It
Ask yourself if you’re handing out praise. If you want people to act a certain way towards you, you need to act that way with them. The added benefit to this is that if you push yourself to feel grateful for others, chances are you will be reminded of how much they do for you. It makes it easier to offer heartfelt praise or thanks.
No News is Good News
As ironic as it is, the more reliable you are, the more likely you are to be taken for granted. Everyone appreciates the kind, consistent, on-top-of-things-type-of-person, but they may never think to thank or praise that person for those very things they appreciate.